The 3 biggest wastes of time and energy. Anxiety, Complaint and Worry.
is probably the biggest waste of energy ever. It is an irrational form of fear. It’s probably the hardest to control as well. It can be the natural response to being put into a new situation or interaction.
In caveman times anxiety was needed to warn us of constant danger like sabre tooth tigers, lions or other cavemen. These days’ things aren’t that serious :).
Some people can use their anxiety to actually help them perform better but for a lot of us including me; it makes it harder to act confidently and be yourself when you come down with it. It can also prevent you from doing things altogether which is really detrimental to your life.
How can we limit it?
This can be difficult but the best way to reduce anxiety is to become accustomed to whatever is making you anxious. Basically, you need to put yourself into that new scenario again and again and again. Once you do this your mind will realise that it isn’t so bad. Then your anxiety will reduce.
Another way is to single task. Our brains are designed to handle one thing at a time. If you can focus your energy on one thing at a time you’ll be less anxious as your attention is not always divided.
What we put into our body also dictates our moods and emotions. A healthy diet can reduce anxiety. Start simple by keeping away from sugary and processed foods. Also keep yourself properly hydrated by drinking enough water throughout the day.
is another big waste of time. This one is the easiest to control out of the list. There are two options in every situation. Either you can’t do anything about it and complaining will do nothing to help that. Or you can do something about it and complaining will do nothing to help that either. (Seems like complaining doesn’t have much use 😉 ).
Sure you can express your grievances but I think it’s better to limit this. Complaining can create a habit to have you play the victim which stops you from actually solving the issue at hand. It becomes a vicious cycle of even more complaining. I’m sure you’ve met someone like this. They complain about everything and it’s just a natural way of life to them. You don’t want to be that person.
Challenge: For the next month, just 30 days. Be mindful of when you complain. When you catch yourself complaining mentally or vocally. Remind yourself that this isn’t helping and making you feel worse. Then think about the solution instead. As you do this and begin to actually solve your problems your life will change in a positive way.
Why worry? How does it help your situation. Worry comes from being occupied with the past and the future. The mind is the culprit for this. It comes from negative assumptions. You become worried about people’s opinions or worried about how something will turn out. Worried you’re going to get hurt.
To live is to risk. Live fully and cast worry aside. How else can you be really here when you’re worried about something else. Enjoy the moment. Deliberate then decide on action. Then just do it and shut your thinking mind out for a bit. Let whatever will be. Be. Then decide on what you’re going to do after that. If it doesn’t turn out how you’d like. So what. Accept your fate and roll with the punches. That’s one more experience to help you grow which could be a blessing down the line. There’s really no need to worry.