These are things I wish I was mature enough to implement when I was younger and still fail with at times. This post would be too long if it was one. So I’ve split it up to elaborate on each point and so you readers won’t lose engagement.
1) Put your energy in the right places
Stressing over the past, clinging onto things you can’t change, attachment to outcomes, spending time with negative people (energy leeches I like to call them). Even things like spending too much time spying on other people business.
Focus your energy where it’s important! Your energy is so valuable; you only get a finite amount of it. Why would you want it to spend it on ways that are detrimental to the lifestyle you really want to lead. Sometimes so much energy can be lost throughout the day through the mind. Thinking and worrying. But when you have a clear mind you feel less tense. Things don’t tire you as much and you move through the day a lot smoother.
My advice is to take a good look at the bigger picture. How do you want your life to be? What do you need to do to achieve your goals? Focus on yourself. Make decisions and do things that will whole-heartedly support that. When your energy is in the right places big things can happen!
2) Things aren’t really important
The novelty of things don’t last. It’s nice to buy something that you like from time to time but I find that people nowadays waste money and hoard items to fill underlying issues that are missing from their lives. The more things you have is actually more of a weight on your mind. I’ve been getting rid of a lot of things lately because I really like the minimalist way of living.
It’s less stress, like having a clear desk. You just feel so much more relaxed and easier to focus than when it is all cluttered. It’s just the same, having some luxury items is nice but for the most part less is more. You have more appreciation for each item this way. When I was younger I used to really want the latest gadget and buy things I didn’t need ( Sometimes I still do). I would feel that I would be much happier for it. The truth that I’ve found is what really gives you fulfilment are relationships and experiences which I will be talking about next.
3) Relationships and experiences are everything
To be honest I think you should stop reading this blog right now (but please come back : ) ). Go and speak to someone you’ve been meaning to talk to but have been a bit lazy keeping in touch with. It happens to the best of us, things get busy and a little hectic. When your 50 odd what will matter then? The people around you. Think about it, working too much and losing touch with some great people. What a shame that would be.
4) Who you spend time with dictates a lot in your life
The people your around can either elevate you or bring you down. This is the truth. Sometimes you have to drop people you might have known for a long time because they’re holding you back from becoming the person you want to be. They have expectations because of how you used to be and they can’t accept the new you even if it’s a positive change. Let’s be honest if you haven’t changed in however many years there is something wrong. Your entire life is growth and evolution.
5) Read A lot
The single biggest thing that has changed my mindset to becoming a better, more productive person. Reading lets you see into the great minds of thousands of different people. You get an insight into their experiences. Experiences that you may never have a chance to have. This gives you a way of becoming a more well rounded individual so you can make better decisions into what you want to do in life. Things you read just like who you spend time with affect your subconscious. They effect you subtly even when your not consciously with those people or reading. It will plant seeds into your brain and help you on your path. (Key is reading good books aligned to the goals you want to achieve, check my reading list for some recommendations).